In my last 15 years of research on Mind Dynamics, here are few patterns that i have found unhealthy. These patterns i had observed in people whom i coached, people whom i met and even in myself sometimes.
Being aware of the impact of these patterns, at least i can break them actively. This post is to help you break them...
Pattern 1. Am the most unfortunate soul...
This is a unique hidden pattern found in almost all of us, the moment things are not going the way we want. Instead of accepting reality, we make it mean something. If you really look at this pattern, its based on what i call "Selective context data gathering" ability of mind. What it means is the moment you begin to view yourself as unfortunate soul, your mind will automatically gather data to support your assumption.
Pattern Breaker : Turn around. Next time you catch yourself getting lost in self pity, just turn around the statement to I am the most fortunate soul. And then see the magic of your mind...
Pattern 2: Am not good enough.
This i call as the one of the classic pattern that had plagued human consciousness since time immemorial. A lie that helps us not take and claim responsibility for our actions. I call it a lie...because it is a lie. As you will use the pattern breaker, you will slowly and naturally begin to discover that it is a lie...
Pattern Breaker : Next time you see yourself running this auto dialog. Just ask a simple question..."Not good enough...Compared to whom?" There it will go up in smoke. It will give you a list of people you are benchmarking yourself against. As if you are a business process that needs to fulfill the benchmarking parameters of others. Thats stupid.
Set yourself free. Know deep in your heart, you are the most unique creature on this earth and there is no one else like you. And hence drop the effort of confirming to any standards that are outside of you. Celebrate who u are...No matter what...
In my journey as a Mind Magic explorer, i have found these two patterns as the most innocent looking and harmless, yet i have always seen that impacts of these patterns actually are carried through our genes for generations. And 99% of the time the impacts are lethal on our mental health and sense of well-being. So next time you see yourself running these, you know what to do...
Do let me know if you found this useful...
